给女人的建议——说“不”
2021年4月16日发布
你知道吗,女性更有可能自愿承担那些不会带来升职或加薪的任务。根据匹兹堡大学进行的一项小规模JDB电子研究,696名学生参加了一项要求他们自愿参加的练习。JDB电子研究人员发现,女性举手的频率比男性高出48%。当经理需要“快速选择某人完成任务”时,他们更有可能选择女性。
Linda Babcock, Maria P. Recalde和Lise Vesterlund在《哈佛商业评论》的一篇文章中JDB电子研究了为什么女性自愿承担那些不会带来晋升的任务。在JDB电子研究了大量的JDB电子研究后,他们得出结论,这不是任务的性质,也不是男人不感兴趣,而是“真正的驱动因素是人们普遍认为女性比男性更愿意做志愿者。”
茱莉亚·卡彭特在CNN的一篇文章中写道,“你不是办公室妈妈。那你为什么要做办公室家务呢?关于女性被期望承担某些角色,比如记笔记,煮咖啡,整理办公室厨房,或者计划节日聚会。“这种类型的办公室家务已经被学者们JDB电子研究了几十年。”虽然这些任务值得赞赏,对整体工作环境也有贡献,但它们对职业发展毫无帮助。在战略规划会议上做笔记会让你很难参与到谈话中来,我们什么时候听到高层JDB电子领导说:“哦,让我们提升玛丽吧,因为她是一个善于记笔记的人”——从来没有!
今天早上,在《高等JDB电子纪事报》的每日通讯中,有一篇关于这个话题的文章。作家莎朗·马库斯(Sharon Marcus)在比较学术界男女的发展轨迹和努力时,把男性集体称为大卫(David),把女性集体称为詹妮弗(Jennifer),并写道:“我们最看重的是詹妮弗,她关心别人,让别人感觉良好,尽管我们很少把金钱或荣誉授予她的自我牺牲。”如果詹妮弗试图为自己行使权力,我们的反应通常是矛盾的。随着时间的推移,总的来说,人们感到自己的能力在增强;而女人则觉得她们的财富缩水了。”
So, I have some sage advice for my peers and colleagues, aka Jennifer – just say, “No.”
Saying no matters today and in the future because in the long run, women will continue to be promoted less often, which ultimately results in financial loss better known as the wage gap. We must refrain from our need to end the awkward silence when our manager asks for volunteers to run the annual holiday party or send out the birthday cards. We must create boundaries such that we do not put ourselves into the role of “mother” – our clients, students, peers, all have mothers (or mother figures in their lives) and it is not our responsibility to take on that role. It is not our responsibility to feel the need to take on the mundane tasks, so men can assume more power.
So, say “No.” Support your female co-workers in saying, “No.” Help one another create and maintain healthy boundaries that allow us to assume more power, authority, and opportunities for promotion. As women, we need to stand together and support ALL women, especially women of color, so collectively we can truly become equal to our male counterparts.
Best,
Anne Converse Willkomm
Assistant Dean, Graduate College
Assistant Clinical Professor & Department Head, Goodwin College
Drexel University